Nearly fifty percent of the people of shyness one degree or another. Discovered if you consider shy and what are the best ways to overcome shyness.
As part of being human beings, we are social workers and Btabana We need to be with other people. There is considerable evidence that the lack of human contact makes people physically and mentally, the more tendency to disease, stress and suicide. However, for many people, shyness is a major impediment to meet this basic need.
It seems shyness as a problem usually stems from the personal qualities such as self-awareness overload, low self-esteem and fear of rejection. However, the phenomenon of shame spread due to the customs followed in Western culture. Shyness can make people less influential in the social, business, and perhaps the best way to avoid this feeling of shame is accepted. In addition, there are a variety of ways to shy from which to develop satisfactory relationships without hurting the basic nature.
Bad shy
These people refusing to peers due to lack of or poor social skills they have, they do not feel the connection to others and get angry from it. They feel alienated and therefore develop a sense as big when Anazlon from others.Their isolation makes them less sympathetic, which leads to contempt of others and try to revenge them.
Shame what is going on inside the brain
One solution is a shame for a better understanding of the internal dynamics. It is important to understand that the shy need more time to feel confident.Often Kjulun needs more time to adjust to new situations or stressful, even if it daily chats or social gatherings. Sometimes it takes them so much longer to overcome the obstacles of life, but in the end, they succeed - are finding a life partner, are having children, they find a job and so on.
Kjulun tends to sometimes unrealistic comparisons. In the room filled with people, the interest will be the person most successful in social terms, as they compare themselves to it. Kjulun tend to think that he is constantly evaluated by others. Because they focus on "sins", they sometimes do not notice that the people around them are just like them. Most of the people attending the concert are listening and are not homosexual in social terms. The main problem with the shy lies in the development of new relationships. 58% of shy they said they had a problem in the definition of themselves to others. They go to the concert, but something bad does not happen. 40% shy of saying that they have a problem in the development of friendships. Only 7% said they had problems in intimate relationships .
- New cultural climate
Internet culture which now controls changed the ways of communication. We lose our patience we've become faster, because we got used to the speed, and sometimes we do not have time to wait until one initiates the start of the relationship. On the other hand, text messages, e-mails and Facebook make it possible to communicate in other ways may make it easier for shy. There are also cases it continues to lower among people. We get out of the office to the car, we use headsets while driving, we keep only limited social communication with a small circle of friends and family members. Sometimes instead of the meeting, we send an e-mail or we contact the phone. When there is no direct connection via the eyes, it is easy to ignore the e-mail or phone, and this increases the cruelty. A lot of people shy develop relationships via the Internet, where they feel that they can express themselves better.
Rapid culture also sometimes lead the grave ashamed that uses anti-depression , and marketed as drugs help treat phobias and social anxiety.Medications can help reduce excessive self-consciousness, but nevertheless, the shame is not a medical or psychological problem, and therefore medicines are not always appropriate to treat it. In practice, it is easy to take the medication, but learning how to deal with a difficult problem.
- Shy strategies
91% of the shy who have been screened reported that they had tried to overcome shyness, as the central strategy they have is that they are more open to the outside. And 67% said they are trying to go to more concerts, cafes and shopping malls - places of which they are close to the others. The second strategy in terms of the proportion of Cioaha are trying to change the self-knowledge, thinking in a positive way, to say to yourself: "I'm good enough, smart enough and people like me." 22% shy of trying to convince themselves not to be shy. 15% shy of the head of the self-help books and seminars. About 12%, especially in adolescence, drink alcohol and use drugs to remove the obstacles and face the shame, but of course there is a risk of an addiction. A large part of the addicts are shy, but weaning programs are not always suitable for the shy, because it sometimes requires to stand up and speak.
- Shyness: What is the solution?
A lot of people think that shyness is inside them, but the key is to know others around us, instead of thinking of a lack of confidence. "Successful Kjulun" understand the nature of shame and overcame social anxiety through the liberalization of self-criticism they have. Understanding receptive to being nervous in social situations, arrive early for parties to find a good place, planning in advance what they will say and how they develop their conversation, eager to communicate with people in their daily lives, develop a conversation with the seller and create positive interactions.
